This comes from Meditations .com. I think that most of you reading this will be in reasonably good health but not too busy to consider the regrets some people have at the end of their lives as recorded by a palliative care nurse. The five most common regrets are
1. I wish I had the courage to live a life true to myself not the life others expected of me.
This was the most common regret. When people come to realise their life is almost over and they look back clearly on it, it is easy to see how many dreams have gone unfulfilled. A lot of people dont honour their dreams and they die knowing they could have made better choices. From the moment you lose your health it is too late. Health brings a freedom few realise
2. I wish I didnt work so Hard
More male patients have this regret. All the men deeply regretted having spent so much time on the treadmill of work. By simplifying your life you probably wont need the income you think you need by making some conscious different choices along the way. This way you open up more space time and eventual happiness more suited to your different lifestyle,
3. I wish I had the courage to express my feelings
Many suppress their feelings to keep the peace with other people, settling for a mediocre existence. As a result people develop illness as a result of bitterness and resentment. Although people may initially react to you when you first speak your truth it will usually raise the relationship to a whole new level.
4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends
Often in their dying weeks they regret and realise the true benefit of old friends which often they are unable to track down. In a busy lifestyle it is easy to let friendships slip. Many regret not giving their friendship the time and effort they deserve. In the end it all comes down to love and relationships. This is the only thing that remains in the final weeks love and relationships.
5. I wish I had let myself be happier
This is a very common one. They stayed stuck in old patterns which stopped them being happier than they could have been. This comfort of familiarity of bad patterns flowed over into their lives and health. There was fear of change wehen deep down they longed to laugh properly and have silliness int heir lives again. How wonderful it is to be able to to let go and smile again long before you are dying.
Life is a Choice it is Your Life. Choose consciously, wisely, choose honestly, and choose happiness.
I take it most of you are not at the Palliative care level so now you can make better choices before you arrive at regretful stage at the end of your life learning from those who have gone before us.